I noticed that we have a habit of asking if something is a test or contest. However, rereading the section in the rule book, I'm finding that it says to roll the dice when it's important enough for you to. Remember, if the other side gives in without rolling, there's no stress or plot points given out.
Especially in the PBP milieu, I think that it could make things go a bit quicker if we just rolled our dice instead of asking. That way, if it wasn't needed, the other side just gives us what we want, and no harm, no foul. But, if dice need to roll, we're a step ahead of the game.
What do y'all think?